The pattern is not new. Real men make her wet. You make her polite. That has been the arrangement for years and you have run out of reasons that make it something else.
You have been trying to hold a shape that never fit. Small cock in a photograph you refused to send. The small adjustment in her eyes that told you where you were being placed. The friend of yours who dated the women you wanted, and finished the job for them the way you never could have. You have been that shape since before you knew there was a name for it. Sissy. Small. Cuck. Loser.
What you will be after is quieter. A body lined up with the small arousal it actually has. A mouth that knows where it belongs, kneeling for a real cock, at a real woman's feet, useful to the house instead of the bed. A word that arrives at odd hours and settles the shape further into place each time. SPH, feminization, service submission, bi-forced adjacent, cuck-tolerated. Every kink lines up with the same verdict.
Useful. By the time it ends, the shape underneath is named, and the name is what you are.